That's one way for each day in December leading up to THE big day. 25 ways my very real, very genuine clients motivate themselves to use their appearance to inhale confidence and exhale doubt. You may call it an Image Advent Calendar, guaranteed to take the stress out what may otherwise be an anxious time of year. This is what inhaling confidence really looks like…
These are the 25 gifts you receive when you take the guessing out of dressing. What does a more confident you look like? Wondering how you can become the best version of you?
Not sure which package is right for you? Let's create one together. Click HERE or contact Dani at Dani@StyleByDani.com, call/text 385.229.6297.
You're running around on Halloween and want to show that yes, you are aware it's that hallowed day, without looking or feeling uncomfortably over the top. Here are three easy ways to put out the Halloween vibe with minimal effort. You're welcome.
1. The ugly Halloween sweater. Yes, it's a thing. A discreet, cool but no overly cool, Halloween statement piece.
2. Kritter Klips that match your actual hair color.
3. Maskimals - they also come in the Nightmare Before Christmas variety.
For more Halloween ideas including how to find the costume you already own in your closet, check out this post. Or for a more customized approach to Halloween, click here for your Perfect Halloween Style.
It's never a bad idea to update your jeans...and to discard that pair at the bottom of pile that haven't fit in 10 years. A new pair of jeans is something I invest in once a year. As the weather has abruptly changed from summer to winter, I am now looking to denim for warm, rugged, Fall comfort. With our many different body shapes and sizes, and so many options in jeans, which one is right for you? Amanda Peet said, "I usually try on at least 20 pairs of jeans before I find something that looks good on me. And even then, I have a trustworthy friend tell me if my butt looks big!" What a pain! Save yourself some time and mental fatigue when you choose the right shape for your shape.
your Shape 101 class applied to jeans
This is A WAY to choose the best jeans for your shape, not the only way. Remember, it's not just what you wear, but how you wear it. For other options that are a fabulous fit for you, including how to make the clothes you currently own work for your figure, click HERE.
Yes! Especially when it’s still warm outside. Wearing white is a great way to feel sunny and bright, just like the weather. The rule about not wearing white after Labor Day is more of a guideline anyway....cue Pirates of the Caribbean. Wearing white is absolutely appropriate until the weather changes, unless you prefer to channel your inner pirate. In which case you’ll wear white all year long. What is the logic behind the rule....er guideline?
Dark colors absorb the light, making you feel warmer. It’s not about Labor Day, it’s about the annual temperature change. In theory, it’s just after Labor Day when temperatures get cooler and we opt for warmer clothes. Warmer fall to winter clothes are generally darker, reflecting darker skies. The gorgeous color of our mountains is telling us that cooler temps are coming. But there’s no reason to ditch your white, here are five ways to wear it all winter long.
1- Go monochromatic- mix white, winter white and camel.
2- Add a layer.
3- Vary the fabric textures.
4- Wear white with tall boots.
5- Add a touch of black.
Looking for a custom approach? Wanting to find more ways to wear what’s in your closet? You’ll love a Wardrobe Evaluation or Styling Session. Contact me HERE or text/email 385.229.6297 to get started.
Written by Dani Slaugh and Judith Rasband
Is the thought of back to school shopping stressing you out? With multiple kids running in multiple directions all yelling “come with me Mom” and “I really need this!” with with 50 other moms and their kids all doing the same thing is absolute mayhem! It feels like utter chaos, cock-eyed, google-eyed chaos and yes there is a better way. Stress-free back to school shopping is possible when you and your kids are on the same page and have a rock solid plan. In addition to zen meditation yoga to prep you for the big back to school shopping event, try this equally satisfying process for guaranteed stress-free and effective school preparation.
1. Evaluate their wardrobe – A wardrobe evaluation is a great way for you to spend some one-on-one time with your child before their day is taken up with school and other activities. This should be on a stress-free day. Try turning on music. Make it fun. It’s not about the stinky socks and the unidentifiable something or other that has been under their bed for a year. Stay focused on the clothes in their closet and a great new school year that starts with how they feel about themselves. Clothes have a huge impact on our psyche…especially for kids in a new environment.
3. Choose their best look for the first of day of school. When in doubt choose a shirt with a collar, that gives them instant smarts, and makes a fabulous first impression for their teacher and other students. If they look sharp, they’ll feel sharp!
Prepare to be the Mom Boss of the clothing store and love shopping with your kids.
I have officially graduated to having kids who love riding roller coasters. Wahoo! It's been a long wait but totally worth it. To watch your child scream and belly laugh uncontrollably is what every mother lives for. Right? As I'm gearing up for a long day of coaster to coaster riding, I realize it's time to leave the big floppy hat and skirt at home. No more being an observer of littles at kiddie land. I get to be in the action now, with the big kids, spinning upside down, front-ways, back-ways, side-ways, getting wet, then hot, then sweaty, then wet again. Oh the joy! It occurs to me that spending the entire day at the amusement park with all this action, takes some serious outfit planning. Not willing to sacrifice one minute of precious time running back and forth to a locker, I've come up with this list of things to wear to keep your money, phone, and of course dignity, in tact.
1. Pockets with zippers + zip lock bag for the phone
A phone is handy for fun photos and contacting AWOL group members, but the last thing you should be worrying about when you're about to take a hundred foot plunge into the water is whether or not your phone is going to get wet OR fall out of your pocket. Shirts and shorts or pants with zippers are golden in this situation. Put your phone in a zip lock or water-proof bag before the pocket and you're safe as a kitten.
2. Fanny pack
You may call it a mini belt bag, a running waist pack, money belt, hip pack, or my favorite a pocket front bumbag. It's essentially a fanny pack and has proven to be a trusted friend in on-the-go circumstances. I normally wear mine under my shirt right at the waist. If it's empty, it lays close and is hardly noticeable. When it's full, a little blousing and even distribution of the essentials inside is also a good disguise. If you don't need that extra granola bar and have plenty of zippered pockets, feel free to leave the pack at home.
3. Clothes that dry quickly
Wet clothes in heavy-weight or obsorbent fabric tend to either chafe or just feel uncomfortable as they take forever to dry. Denim is one of these. Ditch the cut-offs friends and instead try quick drying shorts or pants that your skin will thank you for later.
4. Comfortable shoes
This one is fairly obvious, if you're going to be on your feet walking on concrete all day you want happy feet. Many people wear sneakers with socks. These can take time to dry if they get wet and may cause blistering. I've found that supportive flip flops actually work well. You can take them off and leave them on the ground for rides where your feet fly through the air and hanging coasters have a base that your feet stay on. Sandals with straps are an even safer bet. Cool, quick drying, and supportive.
5. Hair tie, earrings, necklaces, lipstick
This is where the dignity stays in tact. You can avoid looking like a drowned mouse with a little updo, earrings with backs, a secure necklace and yes 12 hour lipstick. Say hello to end of the evening photos because you're gonna look great!
Is there anything you would add to the list? Post it below or just share this post with your coaster crazy friends!
You know you have an event coming up where you want to, not only leave with your dignity in tact, but with your companions saying "NICE LOOK"! I'm here to help you nail it....
I’m in 4th grade, and I’m playing the outfield. Because that’s where they put you when you’re the youngest, smallest girl on the softball team. I’m getting pretty good at identifying balloon animals from the shapes of clouds in the sky…there’s not a lot of action in the outfield. Except for that one ball, the one that rolls past second base, over the sprinkler head, past the dandelion and right through my legs. As I’m chasing the ball down through my outfield to the outfield of the field next to mine and into the playground at the edge of the park, I realize how embarrassing it is to run after a ball, that I should have caught, with so many people watching…
Have you ever made a mistake and felt the whole world watching you?
This is when I decide to be a pitcher. Because as a pitcher, I’m the first defender instead of the last. If the ball goes between my legs, there are people behind me to run down the ball or actually catch it. Now there’s a concept! So I get a bucket of balls, paint a rectangle target on the cedar fence and start throwing and throwing. If I’m focused on the target, my pitches become strikes. Strikes become strike-outs and I become an influencer. No longer waiting back on the defensive. But taking control of the game and it’s outcome for me and my team.
Your image, your self-presentation is noticed first and remembered longer than anything you say. Your image is your greatest influencer. How are you pitching it? Are you considering the effects your appearance has first on you, then on others? Are you using the elements of design to influence the outcome of that message?
Fine tune your image and be more influential HERE.
Are you feeling "stuffocated" in your closet? Do you long for the simple life and simple approach to clothing? James Wallman, in his book Stuffocation, describes how we need less stuff and more experiences. Are you looking forward to building some great experiences this summer? Let’s clean up your stuff and liberate your mind to experience something wonderful. It all begins where you start your day....no not looking at e-mail, not in the bathroom, in the closet where you are putting on that magic boost we call "Clothes Power". (Thank you Judith Rasband for coining the phrase.) But how do you know what to keep in this simple life mastery program? Keep what's right for you! If you’re going to keep the bare minimum, it needs to be spot on. Answer yes to these beginning level questions for a smart and simple wardrobe that’s perfect for you.
1. Do the clothes work for your shape? Check to see if the shape of your clothing repeats the shape or silhouette of your body for your quick fit strategy.
For counterbalancing techniques see blog post 4 Balancing Techniques to Create the Ideal Figure here. Note many people become a combination of body types during middle age when metabolism slows down and weight goes up.
2. Do the clothes repeat your personal body coloring? When you repeat your hair, eye, skin and blush color in your clothes you become part of the color scheme. Repeat blue eyes and peachy rose blush with a pattern that includes those colors (left). Repeat rusty red hair with cinnamon colors (right).
For more tips on coloring see previous post 4 Ways to Look More Vibrant Every Day.
3. Are the fabric textures and weights complimenting you? Repeat a soft body with soft fabrics and textures for a softer effect to emphasize; dress a smaller body with light to medium weight fabric and textures (left below). Repeat a firm body with firm fabrics and textures for a firmer effect to emphasize; dress a larger body with medium to heavy weight fabrics and textures (right below).
Note generally avoid thick heavy weight fabrics on a small body and thin, light weight fabrics on a large body.
4. Are the patterns in scale with your physical size? Repeat a smaller face and body with smaller size/scale patterns to emphasize and harmonize. Repeat a larger face and body with larger patterns to emphasize and harmonize (left). Repeat a rounded face and features or curly hair with rounded patterns to emphasize. Repeat and angular face and features our straight hair with angular patterns to emphasize (right).
Note generally avoid round patterns on a rounded body, large patterns on a small body and tiny patterns on a large body
The clothes you keep should have enough variety in styles to accommodate the multi-dimensional life you lead. Don’t limit yourself to only tailored clothing or strictly active-wear. You need clothes to take you to the many experiences you are about to enjoy, from a glamour filled evening to a day at the park and everything in between.
Looking for an objective eye to teach you what works for your figure type, coloring and which textures and patterns are best for you? I'm just a click away!
For the woman who is always giving and never taking time for herself, I've got some fabulous options that will show your love and help her feel gorgeous every day! Call me at 385.229.6297, e-mail Dani@StyleByDani.com or click below.
What's the secret to a colorful, vibrant, youthful life? Could it be…hair? Rich colored, thick hair with a natural healthy shine? Why is so much of our identity tied to our hair? Or lack of it? Despite all of the mileage bald men get from hairless jokes and the many debonaire bald men out there, aka Jason Statham, many guys still feel like balding is a strike against them. And when women and men are confronted with the choice to color their hair or let it gray naturally, the choice is deeply personal. For my client Grace, the option of go gray or color her hair was never really a question for her. She would age “gracefully” and allow her hair to gray naturally. The concept seemed simple enough but the actual process was more difficult. It’s hard to watch ourselves age! And loosing hair or the color of hair seems to happen overnight. It also appears to be more obvious than any other change we make in the aging process. While most of the time we can turn those wrinkles into “wise cracks” there are moments when you look at yourself in the mirror and realize …. “I’m not 25 anymore”. Have you had a moment of vulnerability when you realize, “yes, I’m getting older”? For Grace, when the hair colors began to change, so did her perception of who she was. Despite the ideal of a natural aging process, she was struggling to accept the new woman nature was gently changing her into. The transition to different clothing styles for her evolving figure was fairly simple, but when we sat down to look at her personal coloring the insecurities came out. She felt like loosing her hair color was washing her out, and the person she knew herself to be was likewise fading away into oblivion. It was when we zeroed in on her beautiful olive green and rust eye color, natural pink coral blush and deep rose lip color, that we discovered all of the interesting colors she still had in her hair - honey brown, light taupe, and silver - that the transition really hit home. When she saw all of these color swatches laid out in front of her, and saw that they were anything but lifeless and boring, the tears started to well up in her eyes. The feeling of being washed out and left behind for the sake of natural aging was now replaced with a rich, vibrant outlook. The tears continued to flow until there wasn’t a dry eye in the room. Everyone there felt the significance of this moment of genuine self-appreciation. Mission accomplished! Grace felt beautiful again and what a privilege it was to witness.
How the right colors can give you a rich, vibrant outlook on life.
Level 1 - Because one of the easiest ways to look classy, age appropriate and sophisticated is to emphasize your hair, eye, skin and blush colors through repetition. Judith Rasband, image master advises “Repeat your most attractive personal coloring—your hair color, your eye color, your skin, and warm cheek color—in your clothing. In other words, take your personal coloring down into your clothing. You can expect these colors to look fabulous on you.”
Level 2 - “Repeat your clothing color on or near your face—for women, use
makeup, earrings, hair ornaments, headband, scarf, or hat. For men,
use a tie, scarf, glasses or hat. In other words, take your clothing color up onto
or near your face.” According to Rasband.
Level 3 - Emphasize your personal coloring through complementary contrast. If you hair, eyes, and skin are some degree of brown, for example, look for the complementary color to emphasize the brown. Brown’s complementary color is blue, which is why blue is always in the stores and why so many people are rocking the blue suit!
Level 4 - Add value or light/dark contrast. For the debonaire guy who happens to have no hair on his head, is fair skinned and isn’t inclined to wear black mascara (one of the level 2 options), wearing darker colored clothing will help counter the “washed out” syndrome. Wearing black is a common way to accomplish this, but deep, rich colors such as dark teal, burgundy, midnight blue, deep olive, charcoal, and gunmetal gray are less predictable ways to achieve the same pleasing result.
For your color session that includes a personalized color pallet and guarantees a more colorful outlook on life, contact me HERE.
Image consultant and personal stylist. Dani is happily married, the mother of 3 charming children, and an Aussie named Josie Wales.