It's Wednesday afternoon, the middle of December, and the snow is falling. I'm out in the cold, at the cemetery, waiting for my friend's casket to be brought to her grave. My sweet friend is being laid to rest after her courageous battle with cancer. The mood is quiet, somber, peaceful. Out of respect for her and her family, most people are dressed formally and wear darker colors. After all, this is an occasion to show love and support, not to stand out and get noticed. I'm surprised by the low number of well wishers who actually have dressy coats to match their more formal clothing. Almost no one is wearing a classy looking hat. And it's COLD! Did I mention the snow falling? Some people are even wrapping the mortuary blankets around themselves. The lady next to me was wearing only a thin silk blazer. She was visibly shivering and subconsciously moving closer, I'm guessing for group heat. I put my arm around her and move to block the wind. In my long fur coat, I feel like the fluffy warm snowman trying to hug the icy cold one in the image above. I'm feeling bad for my new friend, but not about to give up my coat.
A warm coat and hat to keep the body temperature locked inside the body makes all the difference between frigid, shivering cold and cozy warm. Even if you don't frequent snowy, cold weather funerals, you won't regret having one dressy coat and hat just in case. You may even find yourself branching out and looking for other occasions to wear them. How about a nice holiday dinner or theater with an evening stroll after? Maybe to see the lights downtown? My goal for you, whether you know it or not, is for you to look like a million bucks no matter what you're doing. With this mission in mind, it's always a good idea to have two coats, two hats and two pairs of gloves. One for formal events where you need to look classy and show respect for your host. And one for casual, fun events, where snowball fights will probably be involved. Here are ideas for coat/hat combos for those more dressy scenarios and where to find them. Because Christmas is fast approaching and Santa is still making his list. Speaking of which....have you put a couple of hours of personal styling on your list? How about a wardrobe assessment with a customized guide for what to wear where for your figure, coloring and personal style? Click HERE to add Style By Dani to Santa's list. Click HERE to get the elve's employee discount.
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That's one way for each day in December leading up to THE big day. 25 ways my very real, very genuine clients motivate themselves to use their appearance to inhale confidence and exhale doubt. You may call it an Image Advent Calendar, guaranteed to take the stress out what may otherwise be an anxious time of year. This is what inhaling confidence really looks like…
These are the 25 gifts you receive when you take the guessing out of dressing. What does a more confident you look like? Wondering how you can become the best version of you?
Not sure which package is right for you? Let's create one together. Click HERE or contact Dani at Dani@StyleByDani.com, call/text 385.229.6297.
You're running around on Halloween and want to show that yes, you are aware it's that hallowed day, without looking or feeling uncomfortably over the top. Here are three easy ways to put out the Halloween vibe with minimal effort. You're welcome.
1. The ugly Halloween sweater. Yes, it's a thing. A discreet, cool but no overly cool, Halloween statement piece.
2. Kritter Klips that match your actual hair color.
3. Maskimals - they also come in the Nightmare Before Christmas variety.
For more Halloween ideas including how to find the costume you already own in your closet, check out this post. Or for a more customized approach to Halloween, click here for your Perfect Halloween Style.
It's never a bad idea to update your jeans...and to discard that pair at the bottom of pile that haven't fit in 10 years. A new pair of jeans is something I invest in once a year. As the weather has abruptly changed from summer to winter, I am now looking to denim for warm, rugged, Fall comfort. With our many different body shapes and sizes, and so many options in jeans, which one is right for you? Amanda Peet said, "I usually try on at least 20 pairs of jeans before I find something that looks good on me. And even then, I have a trustworthy friend tell me if my butt looks big!" What a pain! Save yourself some time and mental fatigue when you choose the right shape for your shape.
your Shape 101 class applied to jeans
This is A WAY to choose the best jeans for your shape, not the only way. Remember, it's not just what you wear, but how you wear it. For other options that are a fabulous fit for you, including how to make the clothes you currently own work for your figure, click HERE.
Yes! Especially when it’s still warm outside. Wearing white is a great way to feel sunny and bright, just like the weather. The rule about not wearing white after Labor Day is more of a guideline anyway....cue Pirates of the Caribbean. Wearing white is absolutely appropriate until the weather changes, unless you prefer to channel your inner pirate. In which case you’ll wear white all year long. What is the logic behind the rule....er guideline?
Dark colors absorb the light, making you feel warmer. It’s not about Labor Day, it’s about the annual temperature change. In theory, it’s just after Labor Day when temperatures get cooler and we opt for warmer clothes. Warmer fall to winter clothes are generally darker, reflecting darker skies. The gorgeous color of our mountains is telling us that cooler temps are coming. But there’s no reason to ditch your white, here are five ways to wear it all winter long.
1- Go monochromatic- mix white, winter white and camel.
2- Add a layer.
3- Vary the fabric textures.
4- Wear white with tall boots.
5- Add a touch of black.
Looking for a custom approach? Wanting to find more ways to wear what’s in your closet? You’ll love a Wardrobe Evaluation or Styling Session. Contact me HERE or text/email 385.229.6297 to get started.
Written by Dani Slaugh and Judith Rasband
Is the thought of back to school shopping stressing you out? With multiple kids running in multiple directions all yelling “come with me Mom” and “I really need this!” with with 50 other moms and their kids all doing the same thing is absolute mayhem! It feels like utter chaos, cock-eyed, google-eyed chaos and yes there is a better way. Stress-free back to school shopping is possible when you and your kids are on the same page and have a rock solid plan. In addition to zen meditation yoga to prep you for the big back to school shopping event, try this equally satisfying process for guaranteed stress-free and effective school preparation.
1. Evaluate their wardrobe – A wardrobe evaluation is a great way for you to spend some one-on-one time with your child before their day is taken up with school and other activities. This should be on a stress-free day. Try turning on music. Make it fun. It’s not about the stinky socks and the unidentifiable something or other that has been under their bed for a year. Stay focused on the clothes in their closet and a great new school year that starts with how they feel about themselves. Clothes have a huge impact on our psyche…especially for kids in a new environment.
3. Choose their best look for the first of day of school. When in doubt choose a shirt with a collar, that gives them instant smarts, and makes a fabulous first impression for their teacher and other students. If they look sharp, they’ll feel sharp!
Prepare to be the Mom Boss of the clothing store and love shopping with your kids.
I have officially graduated to having kids who love riding roller coasters. Wahoo! It's been a long wait but totally worth it. To watch your child scream and belly laugh uncontrollably is what every mother lives for. Right? As I'm gearing up for a long day of coaster to coaster riding, I realize it's time to leave the big floppy hat and skirt at home. No more being an observer of littles at kiddie land. I get to be in the action now, with the big kids, spinning upside down, front-ways, back-ways, side-ways, getting wet, then hot, then sweaty, then wet again. Oh the joy! It occurs to me that spending the entire day at the amusement park with all this action, takes some serious outfit planning. Not willing to sacrifice one minute of precious time running back and forth to a locker, I've come up with this list of things to wear to keep your money, phone, and of course dignity, in tact.
1. Pockets with zippers + zip lock bag for the phone
A phone is handy for fun photos and contacting AWOL group members, but the last thing you should be worrying about when you're about to take a hundred foot plunge into the water is whether or not your phone is going to get wet OR fall out of your pocket. Shirts and shorts or pants with zippers are golden in this situation. Put your phone in a zip lock or water-proof bag before the pocket and you're safe as a kitten.
2. Fanny pack
You may call it a mini belt bag, a running waist pack, money belt, hip pack, or my favorite a pocket front bumbag. It's essentially a fanny pack and has proven to be a trusted friend in on-the-go circumstances. I normally wear mine under my shirt right at the waist. If it's empty, it lays close and is hardly noticeable. When it's full, a little blousing and even distribution of the essentials inside is also a good disguise. If you don't need that extra granola bar and have plenty of zippered pockets, feel free to leave the pack at home.
3. Clothes that dry quickly
Wet clothes in heavy-weight or obsorbent fabric tend to either chafe or just feel uncomfortable as they take forever to dry. Denim is one of these. Ditch the cut-offs friends and instead try quick drying shorts or pants that your skin will thank you for later.
4. Comfortable shoes
This one is fairly obvious, if you're going to be on your feet walking on concrete all day you want happy feet. Many people wear sneakers with socks. These can take time to dry if they get wet and may cause blistering. I've found that supportive flip flops actually work well. You can take them off and leave them on the ground for rides where your feet fly through the air and hanging coasters have a base that your feet stay on. Sandals with straps are an even safer bet. Cool, quick drying, and supportive.
5. Hair tie, earrings, necklaces, lipstick
This is where the dignity stays in tact. You can avoid looking like a drowned mouse with a little updo, earrings with backs, a secure necklace and yes 12 hour lipstick. Say hello to end of the evening photos because you're gonna look great!
Is there anything you would add to the list? Post it below or just share this post with your coaster crazy friends!
You know you have an event coming up where you want to, not only leave with your dignity in tact, but with your companions saying "NICE LOOK"! I'm here to help you nail it....
I’m in 4th grade, and I’m playing the outfield. Because that’s where they put you when you’re the youngest, smallest girl on the softball team. I’m getting pretty good at identifying balloon animals from the shapes of clouds in the sky…there’s not a lot of action in the outfield. Except for that one ball, the one that rolls past second base, over the sprinkler head, past the dandelion and right through my legs. As I’m chasing the ball down through my outfield to the outfield of the field next to mine and into the playground at the edge of the park, I realize how embarrassing it is to run after a ball, that I should have caught, with so many people watching…
Have you ever made a mistake and felt the whole world watching you?
This is when I decide to be a pitcher. Because as a pitcher, I’m the first defender instead of the last. If the ball goes between my legs, there are people behind me to run down the ball or actually catch it. Now there’s a concept! So I get a bucket of balls, paint a rectangle target on the cedar fence and start throwing and throwing. If I’m focused on the target, my pitches become strikes. Strikes become strike-outs and I become an influencer. No longer waiting back on the defensive. But taking control of the game and it’s outcome for me and my team.
Your image, your self-presentation is noticed first and remembered longer than anything you say. Your image is your greatest influencer. How are you pitching it? Are you considering the effects your appearance has first on you, then on others? Are you using the elements of design to influence the outcome of that message?
Fine tune your image and be more influential HERE.
Are you feeling "stuffocated" in your closet? Do you long for the simple life and simple approach to clothing? James Wallman, in his book Stuffocation, describes how we need less stuff and more experiences. Are you looking forward to building some great experiences this summer? Let’s clean up your stuff and liberate your mind to experience something wonderful. It all begins where you start your day....no not looking at e-mail, not in the bathroom, in the closet where you are putting on that magic boost we call "Clothes Power". (Thank you Judith Rasband for coining the phrase.) But how do you know what to keep in this simple life mastery program? Keep what's right for you! If you’re going to keep the bare minimum, it needs to be spot on. Answer yes to these beginning level questions for a smart and simple wardrobe that’s perfect for you.
1. Do the clothes work for your shape? Check to see if the shape of your clothing repeats the shape or silhouette of your body for your quick fit strategy.
For counterbalancing techniques see blog post 4 Balancing Techniques to Create the Ideal Figure here. Note many people become a combination of body types during middle age when metabolism slows down and weight goes up.
2. Do the clothes repeat your personal body coloring? When you repeat your hair, eye, skin and blush color in your clothes you become part of the color scheme. Repeat blue eyes and peachy rose blush with a pattern that includes those colors (left). Repeat rusty red hair with cinnamon colors (right).
For more tips on coloring see previous post 4 Ways to Look More Vibrant Every Day.
3. Are the fabric textures and weights complimenting you? Repeat a soft body with soft fabrics and textures for a softer effect to emphasize; dress a smaller body with light to medium weight fabric and textures (left below). Repeat a firm body with firm fabrics and textures for a firmer effect to emphasize; dress a larger body with medium to heavy weight fabrics and textures (right below).
Note generally avoid thick heavy weight fabrics on a small body and thin, light weight fabrics on a large body.
4. Are the patterns in scale with your physical size? Repeat a smaller face and body with smaller size/scale patterns to emphasize and harmonize. Repeat a larger face and body with larger patterns to emphasize and harmonize (left). Repeat a rounded face and features or curly hair with rounded patterns to emphasize. Repeat and angular face and features our straight hair with angular patterns to emphasize (right).
Note generally avoid round patterns on a rounded body, large patterns on a small body and tiny patterns on a large body
The clothes you keep should have enough variety in styles to accommodate the multi-dimensional life you lead. Don’t limit yourself to only tailored clothing or strictly active-wear. You need clothes to take you to the many experiences you are about to enjoy, from a glamour filled evening to a day at the park and everything in between.
Looking for an objective eye to teach you what works for your figure type, coloring and which textures and patterns are best for you? I'm just a click away!
For the woman who is always giving and never taking time for herself, I've got some fabulous options that will show your love and help her feel gorgeous every day! Call me at 385.229.6297, e-mail Dani@StyleByDani.com or click below.
Image consultant and personal stylist. Dani is happily married, the mother of 3 charming children, and an Aussie named Josie Wales.