Oh Valentine's Day! For some, it's a magical day full of dancing unicorns spreading the energy of love like pixie dust. And for others, love magic is the last thing on their mind. Which one are you? Or are you somewhere in between? You've heard me say it before, "the way you dress, the colors you wear, affect the way you think, feel, act and then how others react or respond to you," according to Judith Rasband AICI CIM. Which means that color communicates first to you, the person wearing the color, then to others. So when Thursday rolls around, and you go to get dressed, because wearing clothes is a good idea, which color are you going to choose? The colors that say, (A) I'm not feeling the love and I don't want to feel the love, (B) Ooh la la magic is in the air, or (C) life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you're going to get.
A - You’re not feeling the love and don’t wanna feel the love. It happens! When you're feeling kinda blue, wearing dark blue, dark purple and grays can reinforce the somber mood. Cool colors can make you feel, well cool. These colors may communicate the following messages:
B - On the other hand, if you are feeling the love, and want to show it in your clothes, warm colors will generally do the trick.
This is what the “love” colors may be saying…
C - “Life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you're going to get,” Forest Gump. If you want to tell yourself and others that you have a lovely outlook on life, but you’re not about to look like a cheesy Hallmark card try this:
Try these colors on a formal date, casual dinner out, an active date, or even breakfast in bed and notice how they influence your mood. To know your absolute best colors, the ones that make your eyes light up, hair shine, and give your skin a healthy pinkish hue, try my Couples Color Session - on sale the month of February.
Having trouble finding clothes that fit? Tired of sweats and leggings? I have this nasty habit of indulging and eating whatever I want in December only to go cold turkey in January. The problem with this weight fluctuating routine, is that January and February are a great time to buy clothes! Everything's on sale. It’s when the stores are clearing out their Fall/Winter apparel for inventory and bringing in new Spring lines. How do you know which styles to adopt if you’re looking to drop some weight and in some cases gain it? After all, you don’t want to risk looking frumpy, dumpy and lumpy during the transition. No, don’t wait on the weight to feel great. If you or someone you know is in the waiting place, these clothing options will be liberating. (Also lovely if you're pregnant or have a health condition that includes weight fluctuations.) These styles will adjust as you do, within approximately 20-30 pounds, and will give you more flexible options. A word of caution...continued reading may tempt you to wear something besides sweats and leggings.
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1. Double breasted blazers, move the buttons over to adjust for weight loss/gain. Boyfriend style cardigans are also a nice choice, meant to be worn somewhat loose. Other third layer options to consider are knit vests, duster coats and sweater coats.
2. Drop-shoulder and raglan sleeves are a wonderful way to camouflage weight changes in the shoulder area because the shoulder seam is not placed precisely on the shoulder joint. Cowl-neck collars are another option. Not limited to sweaters, find these styles for warm weather clothes as well.
3. Wrap blouses, vests and jackets adjust when do as you tighten or loosen the belted tie. Notice that some wrap tops and skirts are wrap "style" or faux wrap. Meaning the tie doesn't come around the back, limiting their adjustability. However, the wrap "style" below (navy and gold top) has an elastic waistline that will also transition as you do.
4. Wrap skirts and dresses are similar to the tops above. Follow the same principles and look for enough fabric in the skirt to provide coverage when you sit.
5. Shirtwaist dresses that are straight with a belt are lovely. The blousing around the middle allows the clothing silhouette to be dominant, disguising any tummy bulges. The floral float dress accommodates a wide range of sizes. Look for a descent fit through the arm holes or add a third layer. Other dresses to look for include empire waist dresses and jumpers.
6. Wear trouser-pleat pants with a belt. If they become too spacious, you can just add another pleat and no-one's the wiser. Same with the trendy paper bag waist pants.
7. Who doesn't love stretchy pants? The black pants, below, are both stretchy and professional looking. Elastic waistlines are a great way to go. Find them in the floral palazzo pants as well. Patterns aren't your thing? Palazzo pants come in many different colors, patterns and fabrics. Don't limit yourself. You have options!
What adventure is on the horizon for you in 2019? Do you have a new look in mind to get you there? Your clothes can be as flexible and as versatile as you are. Expand your mindset, expand your clothing options and let your wardrobe evolve with you. Contact me for your custom approach to the clothing that says who you are before you speak a word.
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Article adapted from Judith Rasband's Fabulous Fit Clinic.
It's Wednesday afternoon, the middle of December, and the snow is falling. I'm out in the cold, at the cemetery, waiting for my friend's casket to be brought to her grave. My sweet friend is being laid to rest after her courageous battle with cancer. The mood is quiet, somber, peaceful. Out of respect for her and her family, most people are dressed formally and wear darker colors. After all, this is an occasion to show love and support, not to stand out and get noticed. I'm surprised by the low number of well wishers who actually have dressy coats to match their more formal clothing. Almost no one is wearing a classy looking hat. And it's COLD! Did I mention the snow falling? Some people are even wrapping the mortuary blankets around themselves. The lady next to me was wearing only a thin silk blazer. She was visibly shivering and subconsciously moving closer, I'm guessing for group heat. I put my arm around her and move to block the wind. In my long fur coat, I feel like the fluffy warm snowman trying to hug the icy cold one in the image above. I'm feeling bad for my new friend, but not about to give up my coat.
A warm coat and hat to keep the body temperature locked inside the body makes all the difference between frigid, shivering cold and cozy warm. Even if you don't frequent snowy, cold weather funerals, you won't regret having one dressy coat and hat just in case. You may even find yourself branching out and looking for other occasions to wear them. How about a nice holiday dinner or theater with an evening stroll after? Maybe to see the lights downtown? My goal for you, whether you know it or not, is for you to look like a million bucks no matter what you're doing. With this mission in mind, it's always a good idea to have two coats, two hats and two pairs of gloves. One for formal events where you need to look classy and show respect for your host. And one for casual, fun events, where snowball fights will probably be involved. Here are ideas for coat/hat combos for those more dressy scenarios and where to find them. Because Christmas is fast approaching and Santa is still making his list. Speaking of which....have you put a couple of hours of personal styling on your list? How about a wardrobe assessment with a customized guide for what to wear where for your figure, coloring and personal style? Click HERE to add Style By Dani to Santa's list. Click HERE to get the elve's employee discount.
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That's one way for each day in December leading up to THE big day. 25 ways my very real, very genuine clients motivate themselves to use their appearance to inhale confidence and exhale doubt. You may call it an Image Advent Calendar, guaranteed to take the stress out what may otherwise be an anxious time of year. This is what inhaling confidence really looks like…
These are the 25 gifts you receive when you take the guessing out of dressing. What does a more confident you look like? Wondering how you can become the best version of you?
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You're running around on Halloween and want to show that yes, you are aware it's that hallowed day, without looking or feeling uncomfortably over the top. Here are three easy ways to put out the Halloween vibe with minimal effort. You're welcome.
1. The ugly Halloween sweater. Yes, it's a thing. A discreet, cool but no overly cool, Halloween statement piece.
2. Kritter Klips that match your actual hair color.
3. Maskimals - they also come in the Nightmare Before Christmas variety.
For more Halloween ideas including how to find the costume you already own in your closet, check out this post. Or for a more customized approach to Halloween, click here for your Perfect Halloween Style.
It's never a bad idea to update your jeans...and to discard that pair at the bottom of pile that haven't fit in 10 years. A new pair of jeans is something I invest in once a year. As the weather has abruptly changed from summer to winter, I am now looking to denim for warm, rugged, Fall comfort. With our many different body shapes and sizes, and so many options in jeans, which one is right for you? Amanda Peet said, "I usually try on at least 20 pairs of jeans before I find something that looks good on me. And even then, I have a trustworthy friend tell me if my butt looks big!" What a pain! Save yourself some time and mental fatigue when you choose the right shape for your shape.
your Shape 101 class applied to jeans
This is A WAY to choose the best jeans for your shape, not the only way. Remember, it's not just what you wear, but how you wear it. For other options that are a fabulous fit for you, including how to make the clothes you currently own work for your figure, click HERE.
Yes! Especially when it’s still warm outside. Wearing white is a great way to feel sunny and bright, just like the weather. The rule about not wearing white after Labor Day is more of a guideline anyway....cue Pirates of the Caribbean. Wearing white is absolutely appropriate until the weather changes, unless you prefer to channel your inner pirate. In which case you’ll wear white all year long. What is the logic behind the rule....er guideline?
Dark colors absorb the light, making you feel warmer. It’s not about Labor Day, it’s about the annual temperature change. In theory, it’s just after Labor Day when temperatures get cooler and we opt for warmer clothes. Warmer fall to winter clothes are generally darker, reflecting darker skies. The gorgeous color of our mountains is telling us that cooler temps are coming. But there’s no reason to ditch your white, here are five ways to wear it all winter long.
1- Go monochromatic- mix white, winter white and camel.
2- Add a layer.
3- Vary the fabric textures.
4- Wear white with tall boots.
5- Add a touch of black.
Looking for a custom approach? Wanting to find more ways to wear what’s in your closet? You’ll love a Wardrobe Evaluation or Styling Session. Contact me HERE or text/email 385.229.6297 to get started.
Written by Dani Slaugh and Judith Rasband
Is the thought of back to school shopping stressing you out? With multiple kids running in multiple directions all yelling “come with me Mom” and “I really need this!” with with 50 other moms and their kids all doing the same thing is absolute mayhem! It feels like utter chaos, cock-eyed, google-eyed chaos and yes there is a better way. Stress-free back to school shopping is possible when you and your kids are on the same page and have a rock solid plan. In addition to zen meditation yoga to prep you for the big back to school shopping event, try this equally satisfying process for guaranteed stress-free and effective school preparation.
1. Evaluate their wardrobe – A wardrobe evaluation is a great way for you to spend some one-on-one time with your child before their day is taken up with school and other activities. This should be on a stress-free day. Try turning on music. Make it fun. It’s not about the stinky socks and the unidentifiable something or other that has been under their bed for a year. Stay focused on the clothes in their closet and a great new school year that starts with how they feel about themselves. Clothes have a huge impact on our psyche…especially for kids in a new environment.
3. Choose their best look for the first of day of school. When in doubt choose a shirt with a collar, that gives them instant smarts, and makes a fabulous first impression for their teacher and other students. If they look sharp, they’ll feel sharp!
Prepare to be the Mom Boss of the clothing store and love shopping with your kids.
I have officially graduated to having kids who love riding roller coasters. Wahoo! It's been a long wait but totally worth it. To watch your child scream and belly laugh uncontrollably is what every mother lives for. Right? As I'm gearing up for a long day of coaster to coaster riding, I realize it's time to leave the big floppy hat and skirt at home. No more being an observer of littles at kiddie land. I get to be in the action now, with the big kids, spinning upside down, front-ways, back-ways, side-ways, getting wet, then hot, then sweaty, then wet again. Oh the joy! It occurs to me that spending the entire day at the amusement park with all this action, takes some serious outfit planning. Not willing to sacrifice one minute of precious time running back and forth to a locker, I've come up with this list of things to wear to keep your money, phone, and of course dignity, in tact.
1. Pockets with zippers + zip lock bag for the phone
A phone is handy for fun photos and contacting AWOL group members, but the last thing you should be worrying about when you're about to take a hundred foot plunge into the water is whether or not your phone is going to get wet OR fall out of your pocket. Shirts and shorts or pants with zippers are golden in this situation. Put your phone in a zip lock or water-proof bag before the pocket and you're safe as a kitten.
2. Fanny pack
You may call it a mini belt bag, a running waist pack, money belt, hip pack, or my favorite a pocket front bumbag. It's essentially a fanny pack and has proven to be a trusted friend in on-the-go circumstances. I normally wear mine under my shirt right at the waist. If it's empty, it lays close and is hardly noticeable. When it's full, a little blousing and even distribution of the essentials inside is also a good disguise. If you don't need that extra granola bar and have plenty of zippered pockets, feel free to leave the pack at home.
3. Clothes that dry quickly
Wet clothes in heavy-weight or obsorbent fabric tend to either chafe or just feel uncomfortable as they take forever to dry. Denim is one of these. Ditch the cut-offs friends and instead try quick drying shorts or pants that your skin will thank you for later.
4. Comfortable shoes
This one is fairly obvious, if you're going to be on your feet walking on concrete all day you want happy feet. Many people wear sneakers with socks. These can take time to dry if they get wet and may cause blistering. I've found that supportive flip flops actually work well. You can take them off and leave them on the ground for rides where your feet fly through the air and hanging coasters have a base that your feet stay on. Sandals with straps are an even safer bet. Cool, quick drying, and supportive.
5. Hair tie, earrings, necklaces, lipstick
This is where the dignity stays in tact. You can avoid looking like a drowned mouse with a little updo, earrings with backs, a secure necklace and yes 12 hour lipstick. Say hello to end of the evening photos because you're gonna look great!
Is there anything you would add to the list? Post it below or just share this post with your coaster crazy friends!
You know you have an event coming up where you want to, not only leave with your dignity in tact, but with your companions saying "NICE LOOK"! I'm here to help you nail it....
I’m in 4th grade, and I’m playing the outfield. Because that’s where they put you when you’re the youngest, smallest girl on the softball team. I’m getting pretty good at identifying balloon animals from the shapes of clouds in the sky…there’s not a lot of action in the outfield. Except for that one ball, the one that rolls past second base, over the sprinkler head, past the dandelion and right through my legs. As I’m chasing the ball down through my outfield to the outfield of the field next to mine and into the playground at the edge of the park, I realize how embarrassing it is to run after a ball, that I should have caught, with so many people watching…
Have you ever made a mistake and felt the whole world watching you?
This is when I decide to be a pitcher. Because as a pitcher, I’m the first defender instead of the last. If the ball goes between my legs, there are people behind me to run down the ball or actually catch it. Now there’s a concept! So I get a bucket of balls, paint a rectangle target on the cedar fence and start throwing and throwing. If I’m focused on the target, my pitches become strikes. Strikes become strike-outs and I become an influencer. No longer waiting back on the defensive. But taking control of the game and it’s outcome for me and my team.
Your image, your self-presentation is noticed first and remembered longer than anything you say. Your image is your greatest influencer. How are you pitching it? Are you considering the effects your appearance has first on you, then on others? Are you using the elements of design to influence the outcome of that message?
Fine tune your image and be more influential HERE.
Image consultant and personal stylist. Dani is happily married, the mother of 3 charming children, and an Aussie named Josie Wales.