The studio is prepped, the color sort cards are spread out, and workbooks are ready to dive into when my clients walk in. Two women who couldn’t be more different from each other. (I’ll call them June and Jane to protect their privacy.) June is the younger of the two, in her late 20’s, petite, dark brown hair with some cranberry highlights and hazel green eyes. Jane is around 50, tall, with thick blonde hair, blue eyes, and full lips that would have been colored bright pink if I hadn’t told her not to wear make-up. It seemed fairly obvious that the two were not related. So the natural question comes up, “how did you two meet?” The answer was the last thing I expected to hear, “in prison.” June was serving for drug-related charges and Jane was her mentor, having gone through similar experiences in her youth. My next question was, “why did you come to me?” “We never had a positive motherly figure to learn from. This kind of thing just doesn’t come natural to us.”
Have you ever felt alone in your personal style journey? Where those who are influential in your life either have no clue or are built so differently from you that what works for them couldn’t possibly work for you? You’re not alone. Countless others are clueless as to what works for them and what doesn't. Here are my top 3 solutions after working with hundreds of polished style wanna-bes (as a professional stylist/image consultant).
1. KNOW YOUR COLOR PALLETTE
The truth is, you can wear any color when worn in combination with your personal colors. The colors you wear everyday on and around your face: your hair, skin, eye, and blush coloring. With a defined set of color swatches, you will understand how to enhance your most stunning features, look age appropriate and UNIQUELY YOU. Not exactly like Mom, or Dad, not like the most popular kid in high school, or the most followed influencer, but looking like who YOU were always meant to be. You can study your personal coloring yourself and over time get really good and matching your own colors, see how HERE. Or you can come in for a consult and get your physical color swatches that eliminate any doubt as to the colors that will light you up (in the best possible way). Details HERE.
2. EMBRACE YOUR FIGURE TYPE OR BODY BUILD
In my family, we have four women. Since we’re all related, one would assume that we could wear the same shapes in clothes. But in reality, nothing would be further from the truth. What works for Mom’s hipless shape doesn’t always flatter mine, and my sister’s broad shoulders rarely fit into my button-up fitted shirts. Knowing your shape and how to create your version of the ideal opens up options you never knew existed in your world of “it looks better on her than it does on me”. To get a rough understanding of your body shape, take a measuring stick and line it up from your shoulder joint to the outside of your hip. You will be able to see if your shoulders and hips are balanced over one another or if one is fuller than the other, creating some imbalance. See how HERE. For even more accuracy and an understanding of how to create the illusion of the ideal, book a session HERE.
3. DEFINE YOUR PERSONAL STYLE
Your personal style is a presentation of your inner values through your physical appearance. The difficulty is how to reflect your innate brilliance within on the outside, in a positive, true-to-you way that breeds confidence in others. My client, Karen, is a tall, blonde, blue-eyed very dominant woman. After getting to know her a bit, you could tell in an instant that the short sundress with the tiny pale flowers was terrible for her. But when she pulls out the dusty blue neoprene sheath dress with an abstract pattern, it’s obvious that the dress appears to be made specifically for her and her personality. She kept saying, “it’s neoprene!! I have to keep it!” In reality, the fabric, pattern, color and shape all worked in harmony with her personality and therefore her personal style. She looked polished, which was her personal style word. Through identifying and writing down the lines, shapes, colors, textures, and patterns that reflect not only who you are but who you strategically want to become, you will be able to define your own personal style. Or create personal style clarity sooner when working with me in a one-on-one session to create your unique style map. Choosing clothes that represent THE BEST IN YOU will become a breeze! Details HERE.
Regardless of where you are in your true-to-you style journey, which by the way is constantly evolving, a little tune-up is never a bad thing. Especially when we are all reevaluating our hopes and dreams for a fresh new year. Book a free 15 minute call with me HERE to learn how you can break the cycle of inadequate style role models.
P.S. If you have worked with me in the past, you still have access to my Member’s Only online portal with video tutorials, workbooks, and continually updated motivation to help you keep the momentum going in your journey to style success, pushing you toward success in all areas of your life. Take advantage of this free opportunity now! More robust content will be launching on April 1, 2024, when members will be allowed continued access for $7/month. GET your free ACCESS HERE until April 1st.
Image consultant and personal stylist. Dani is happily married, the mother of 3 charming children, and an Aussie named Josie Wales.